Author: dancingwithfruitcake

  • One Year of Retirement

    A woman standing on a balcony overlooking a vineyard, holding a glass of white wine and smiling, with rolling hills and a serene river in the background.

    Today marks one full year of retirement — and I still can hardly believe it. The time has flown by in the most surprising way.

    When I first retired, I was carrying an extra 100 pounds and felt absolutely terrible. My knees hurt so badly that I dreaded getting out of my chair. Some mornings I could barely find the will to get out of bed. I felt old, worn down, and honestly wondered if my best days were behind me.The first few weeks were mostly about sleep — deep, restorative sleep I hadn’t realized I so desperately needed.

    Once I was rested, I started making small but consistent changes: eating better, moving more gently, and showing up for AquaFit classes at the pool. I’ve now lost 50 pounds. My knees still get stiff and sore sometimes, but I’m moving so much better than before. I go to the gym pool three times a week and to a painting class once a week. Since I started eating more fermented foods, my mind feels clearer and I’m genuinely happier most days.

    I also challenged myself by taking a genealogy course at Boston University. It wasn’t the smoothest experience, but I did learn a lot — enough to trace one family line all the way back to the 1200s. Now I’m excited to keep filling in the details and stories.

    I’ve been enjoying a subscription to Texas Monthly. The writing is excellent (which is rarer than it should be these days), the reporting is deep and thoughtful, and I especially look forward to their true crime pieces.

    I’ll admit there are still occasional moments when I feel a little bored, but they pass. What I don’t feel is any regret about leaving work behind. Retirement, even with its quiet rhythms, has been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I’m healthier, lighter, more curious, and finally getting to live life on my own terms.Here’s to year two.

  • Fermented Foods

    A plate of various side dishes including kimchi, pickled cabbage, green olives in a small bowl, pickles, and a slice of bread, accompanied by a dollop of sour cream.

    Recently, I read an article about what Robert F. Kennedy Jr. eats in a typical day. He looks great, and I want to look great too. The main things that stood out were steak, plenty of fermented foods, and the fact that he sometimes eats just one meal. I’m definitely not a one-meal-a-day person, but the fermented foods part intrigued me enough to give it a try.

    I ordered a 6-pack variety mix from Olive My Pickle that included dill pickles, garlic dill pickles, butter olives, mixed Mediterranean olives, carrot and dill sauerkraut, and kimchi. I’ll admit I was a bit skeptical at first — fermented foods contain live bacteria, and I’ve always been used to the standard vinegar pickles you find in most stores.

    My first bite was the butter olives, and they were absolutely delicious. That quickly led to trying the garlic dill pickles, which tasted just like the pickles I remembered from the 1960s. It made me realize how flat and one-dimensional today’s vinegar pickles have become. I saved the kimchi for last because I’d never tried it before and have sometimes been underwhelmed by certain international foods. Once everything else was gone, I finally gave it a chance — and to my surprise, it was genuinely delicious. I ended up ordering another 6-pack right away.

    After that, I dove into the research on fermented foods and was impressed by the potential benefits. For the past three to four weeks, I’ve been eating 4–6 servings a day. Almost immediately, I noticed I felt more awake and alert — which is a big deal for someone who’s usually pretty lazy by nature. I’m still hoping the anti-inflammatory effects will eventually help with my achy knees, but I know that kind of improvement can take time, so I’m being patient.

    Here’s a typical day of eating for me now:

    Breakfast:
    Two slices of toasted sourdough bread, three eggs, and about ¼ cup of sauerkraut.

    Lunch:
    Greek yogurt

    Dinner:
    Chicken thighs (or sometimes tuna, burger, or salmon), a vegetable side, and two more slices of toasted sourdough.

    Snacks:
    A pickle or a few olives throughout the day.

    I’ve been able to hit my six servings of fermented foods daily while still staying within a reasonable salt range. So far, I’ve lost 45 pounds eating this way (over a year) and I genuinely feel much better overall. I’ve also been minimizing processed foods as much as possible — especially after learning about things like arsenic in chocolate and how many store-bought products seem designed to work against us.

    If you’re even a little curious, I highly recommend giving real fermented foods a try. Just be sure to check the label — look for “fermented” or “live cultures,” not just “pickled.”

    Happy eating!

  • Off to a Great Start

    A plate featuring cooked chicken, black-eyed peas, green beans, and a variety of roasted vegetables including zucchini, cherry tomatoes, and colorful bell peppers.

    Yesterday, I started the New Year off with a water aerobics class. It was nice, yet tough. Three-fourths of the way through the class, I started to wonder if I’d be able to climb the steps to get out of the pool with my bad knees. I made it, but it was awkward and there were people looking. I came home and iced my knees to try to offset any major arthritic flare-up. I’m not nearly as sore today as I expected to be, although I did take the exercises easy to prevent pain later.

    This week, I’m planning to eat the same meals each day to minimize uncertainty that would enhance the risk of cheating. For breakfast, I had plain oatmeal with nothing in it, for lunch two eggs on Dave’s Killer Bread, and for dinner see the picture above. I cooked the chicken in the air fryer and the veggies in the oven. Since it was New Year’s Day, I threw in a half cup of black-eyed peas. A banana was my only snack.

    I did a WW workshop. My plan is to do 90 workshops in 90 days to stay connected with the plan and to get new ideas for meals. Some of them are exercise workshops.

    I like to weigh every day. It may not be the recommended way, but it keeps me on top of what’s going on – and sometimes depressed if it’s not going my way. I’m down 1.2 pounds since yesterday. It may be water weight, but whatever. I did drink a good bit of water as well.

    A month or so ago, I bought a vibration plate to use for my knees. I’ve heard they are good for weight loss. If that’s true then it will be a plus. I’m using it twice a day for 15 minutes. It does help to lessen the knee pain. I’m moving around and going out more since using it. I had stopped leaving the house much because of the pain, but I’m out and about again, so the vibration plate and ice have helped my quality of life.

    All in all, yesterday was quite successful.

  • One of Those People

    A group of older women exercising in a pool, using dumbbells for water aerobics, smiling and enjoying the workout.

    In the past, I’ve made fun of those people who start a new diet on January 1st and start going to the gym. They overrun the gyms and annoy the regulars just by being there. Well, guess what…I’ve decided to be on those people this year. That’s right. I made a plan and everything.

    Starting January 1, 2026, I’m going to the AquaFit class at the gym. I’m already a member, but my attendance has long remained dormant. I’m going to do AquaFit four times a week and weights three times a week. I’m also starting back on Weight Watchers. I have my menu made up and everything.

    I did WW last year and lost 30 lbs. I’ve kept most of it off. The thing is, I’ve only been a half-hearted participant. I dial into the virtual workshops, leave my camera off, and fail to participate. I don’t participate in the Connect Community or listen to the audio coaching. I don’t journal. I cheat, and I don’t exercise. There has been no real commitment.

    I’ve decided that this year I’m going to put on my camera and participate in the workshops. I’m going to post in the Community and exercise. I even have a journal. My son gave me The Hero’s Journal, and I’ve already started filling it in.

    The WW coaches ask us to define what is our why? I never really had a why. This time I do. My knees hurt, and that keeps me from living my best life. I bought a vibration plate and started icing my knees, and that has helped a lot.

    I retired this year and have the time to commit and focus on myself and getting healthier. There are no excuses. Of course I’m sitting here right now eating my last-ish chocolate toffee bar…but Thursday is a new day!!

  • Merry Christmas

    A decorative painting featuring two lit candles surrounded by pine branches, holly leaves, pine cones, and a white flower, with a snowy background.

    This is my 6th painting since starting my Acrylic Painting classes. The teacher said I’ve come a long way since May. I’m not sure how true that is, but I’ll take the compliment.

    Christmas doesn’t bring me joy. It feels fake. We decorate our homes with fake trees and tinsel. We buy presents nobody needs for people we don’t like, with money that could best be used elsewhere. We travel to spend time with people out of obligation, people who wouldn’t do the same for us. We watch dozens of silly Christmas movies, hoping to catch a feeling, but we don’t. We realize that all we are is a pawn on someone else’s chess board. We cook the party food and act like we’re happy to be at the party, all the while knowing none of these people would come to our party.

    The best part of Christmas is that in another week we get a chance to start a new year. A fresh start. Will we do things differently in the new year? Will we lose the weight? Go to the gym? Become a better person? Leave something or someone behind? Find something or someone new? It’s at least fun to plan, whether we carry it through, or not.

    Merry Christmas!

  • Ham: From Frozen Solid to the Table in 3 Hours

    Sliced smoked ham on a platter with a decorative candle in the background.

    This ham was in the freezer for awhile. Every time I thought about cooking it, I thought of the hours of thawing it in the fridge and how to cook it. After all that thought, my motivation vanished and it stayed in the freezer.

    This past weekend, I made the decision to throw all caution to the wind and just cook it…frozen…I took that sucker out of the plastic wrap, threw it on a pan, and stuck it in the oven at 325 degrees for about 2 hours 45 minutes. It was perfect! No water, no seasoning, nothing. Just sollidly frozen ham in the pan. I did cover it with aluminum foil. I didn’t even check on it while it was cooking. It was delicious! This will probably be my go-to ham cooking way from now on.

  • Josh Johnson – Peru Drug Bust

    I love comedy, and Josh Johnson is one of my favorite comedians. I hope this makes you laugh as much as I did.

  • A Well-Trained Wife: My Escape From Christian Patriarchy

    A woman with long blonde hair smiling at the camera, with the book cover of 'A Well-Trained Wife: My Escape From Christian Patriarchy' by Tia Levings displayed next to her.

    Tia Levings’ A Well-Trained Wife: My Escape From Christian Patriarchy is a book you won’t want to put down; however, it should come with a major trigger warning. The book details Tia’s life in and escape from the Fundamentalist lifestyle and a husband with mental illness.

    The book is well-written and evokes feelings of being a part of Tia’s experience. I had a panic attack and two weeks of nightmares while reading it. I’m a slow reader. I know what it’s like to escape a similar horror with the ensuing decades of recovery. That was the cause of my panic attack. It brought back the feelings I experienced when living in a truly bad situation for 25 years.

    Still, I give the book – and Tia – five stars. I’ve heard so many people ask why someone would spend so many years living a nightmare. It’s because you know the horror you are living with, but trying to escape takes you into the realm of the unknown. Things escalate rapidly when you try to escape. Escape can mean death.

    One thing I didn’t realize is how all of this fundamental lifestyle can begin in a First Baptist church. Everyone interprets the Bible differently, and I know a lot of Baptists who do not go in the Fundamentalist direction. I personally have experience with fundamentalists, and this book helped me to see things I’ve always known with fresh eyes. The book is not for the faint of heart, but I wholeheartedly recommend it.

  • Quick & Easy Naan Flatbread

    Flatbread topped with melted cheese, walnuts, and dried fruits.

    I didn’t measure anything. Just put the amount that looks good to you. This flatbread is delicious as is, but I think next time I make it I might drizzle a little Balsamic vinegar on it. You could even add a few spring greens on top and then add the Balsamic vinegar.

    Quick & Easy Naan Flatbread

    Serving Size:
    1
    Time:
    15 minutes
    Difficulty:
    Easy

    Ingredients

    • Naan, 1
    • Brie
    • Walnuts
    • Dried cherries
    • Honey

    Directions

    1. Sprinkle with desired amount of Brie, walnuts, and dried cherries on naan.
    2. Drizzle with honey.
    3. Cook in preheated 350 degree oven for 10 minutes.
  • Oven Cheesy Chicken Ramen

    A colorful bowl filled with noodles, topped with melted cheese and shredded chicken, placed on a wooden chair.

    This recipe is similar to Oven Ramen Spaghetti & Chicken, except it has Ragu cheese sauce instead of spaghetti sauce.

    Oven Cheesy Chicken Ramen

    Serving Size:
    6
    Time:
    2 minutes prep
    2 hours oven
    Difficulty:
    Easy

    Ingredients

    • 1-1/2 lbs Frozen chicken thighs
    • Ramen noodles without seasoning packet – 2 packages
    • Ragu Cheese Sauce – 1 jar
    • Water – 3/4 sauce jar

    Directions

    1. Put frozen chicken thighs in Dutch oven.
    2. Top with ramen noodles. Don’t use seasoning package.
    3. Add cheese sauce.
    4. Add 3/4 cheese sauce jar filled with water.
    5. Baked for 2 hours at 350 degrees with lid on the Dutch oven.